Recently, as I was weighing jumping into the Restorative Exercise certification, I was becoming overwhelmed with the feeling that this mountain of information and under-functioning body parts was too intimidating to surmount. I feared that I would pull a Humpty and never get pieced back together.
Then, like a vision, the kind, understanding countenance of Debbie Beane popped up in my Skype window and she spoke knowledge, encouragement, kindness, and genuine empathy to me. She is a mother who has been down the diastasis recti / pelvic floor disorder road, who did MuTu when it was still in infancy, and found Restorative Exercise at the right moment to fall in love with it and start her own RE practice. In short, she is my role model.
Lucky for you, she has bottled some of that kind, brilliant, wise empathy and let me distribute it here to you.
Here are her words for you and for me:
First of all, I offer sympathy and empathy and I-know-your-pain. It is SO HARD to have done this amazing thing (bringing a human into the world?!), and to be dealing with all of the life changes (sleep??) and then to learn that your body is more or less betraying you… it’s hard. For anyone, but especially if you considered yourself particularly healthy or fit beforehand. And then, if you were a very proactive do-everything-Right sort of pregnant person, to learn that there were things you might have done that no one told you about? It’s devastating. How are we supposed to prepare when we don’t even know the right questions to ask??
So. Now you are here, with unhappy results. Know that you are not alone, that in fact there are more people with these issues than you can imagine. But more importantly, know that there *are* things you can do, and that it can, and will, get much much better. Prepare to open your mind and be willing to try things that you don’t understand. Realize that you’re up against a big project, and you’ll spend a lot of time working on it, but that in some ways it’s actually a gift. Because you will end up so much healthier than you were before, and you might never have sought out this information without the catalyst of the injuries.
It’s a small comfort, especially at first, but it’s true. And the benefits you can reap, not only for yourself but for your whole family, are huge. You can help your kids not have to deal with this later on… and maybe you can help other moms, or future moms, by spreading the word. It is frustrating, and depressing, and more than you want to deal with sometimes. But it is what it is, and now you have found the information you need, and all that’s left is to do it.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve read this because I’ve lost count. I need to print it and put it on my wall. I hope you love it as much as I do. Thank you, Debbie!
You can find more from Debbie over at PositivelyAligned.com.